Never Settle
by Diva Rebecca
Are you the kind of person who believes in love at first sight? Do you believe in miracles, angels, true love and most importantly that love can conquer all? Even if you don't believe in a few of these things or none at all, I know there is a part of you way down deep inside that wants to believe. That is the little boy or girl in you who believes in happy endings, the American dream and riding off into the sunset for a "happily ever after" ending which will be obtained at some point in your life. Some of you might read this and smile and say, "Yeah, but I am a realist". Realist or not, when it comes to your romantic love life, you can never just sit there and settle thinking that this is the best it is ever gunna get just because you are a realist.
We no longer live in a time era where arranged marriages are prepared at birth, or where families plan for advantageous marriages for economic reasons. And we no longer live in a society where women need to seek out the most suitable candidate for a husband based on material and monetary possessions alone so that we can be provided for. Along with the equality (or quasi-equality) of women comes choice and the freedom to love whomever you want with no restrictions or requirements to deter our search for love.
So why do so many of us get stuck in an unloving relationship filled with anger, disrespect and even violence? Because we settle. Oh sure, there are other reasons. We become attached, afraid to leave and afraid that we might never find love again. But if you are already in an unloving relationship, what have you got to lose? You won't lose a loving partner, you won't lose any support, you will only gain the chance and opportunity to find all of those things which have been missing in your life. And you will also gain the chance to find that elusive desire on the hearts and minds of so many people....true love.
I might sound wishy-washy, naive or even eternally optimistic (the latter I do not mind so much being), but I believe that there are countless numbers of potential men and women who would be the perfect love match for each one of us. I don't believe in just one true love, I believe that there are many people out there who could fit the bill for each one of you. But they are among even more people who are the wrong sort of characters with personalities which just don't mesh with yours. Your task is to find one that does and experience that true utter love which comes from both sides. You know that kind of love I am talking about. That mushy, sweet love which sickens your friends when they see it every day. The kind of love that makes you want to hold on to each other and never let go. The kind of love that makes you terribly fearful of never seeing each other again. The kind of love when suddenly you envision marriage, children and a future. The kind of love when you are goo-goo ga-ga over each other. THAT is the kind of love we should all experience. And I believe it is out there just waiting to be discovered for each one of us.
You may have already experienced that sort of love and then it just sort of fizzled away. If you are still together, he or she is probably the one you should stay with. Building a lifetime of memories is even sweeter than those first blissful years together. All relationships with an incredibly romantic beginning eventually calm down. But if you are absolutely truly miserable, why stay with someone who doesn't make you happy? No one should ever settle with someone who hurts or mistreats them. Whether you think that you are too old, too fat, too bald, too ugly, too poor, or this is the best it is ever going to get for you, you are probably dead wrong. It is not the best you will ever get UNLESS you stick around. We all deserve to be happy in love. It might not happen tomorrow, in the next week, the next month or even in the next year, but if you keep your heart open, you will meet that special new person who makes you write articles like this one.
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