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Staying Clear of the Pitfalls of Dating
It's really unfortunate that there isn't a "magical dating genie" that can instantly make the perfect partner appear out of the blue for us.
Instead, we have to wade through the dating pool trying to find just the right person for us.
Dating can be both an adventure in fun and frustration. It seems that for every right person we find, we have to deal with dozens of wrong fits.
If you have a clear plan on how to avoid some of the more common pitfalls of dating, you're more likely to find exactly what you're looking for.
Here are some tips that might help you along the way:
Listen to your inner voice.
Too often, we are caught up in worrying over what other people think, or in trying to please others.
If the person you are dating isn't right for you and you know it, don't continue to date them because your mother thinks they are perfect for you or your best friend says you'll never do better.
You know better than anyone what is best for you and if your current date isn't it, end it now.
Give your date a chance.
We live in an extremely fast-paced world, but you have to give your date a bit of time to prove themselves to you. Unless he or she does something you find completely inappropriate on the first date, give them a second chance in the form of another date.
Bear in mind that although first impressions are important, sometimes nerves over spending time with someone new gets the best of a person and you end up seeing the worst and not the best of them.
Ask some tough questions early on.
You don't want to end up dating someone who is married or in a serious relationship with someone else. Ask them about their current situation and look for some tell tale signs that might suggest they are hiding a partner.
If they have a tan line where a wedding ring should be or they never invite you over to their place, these both might be signs that you've got to look elsewhere.
Set a time limit for dating.
We all seem to know at least one couple who has been dating for years. Normally one partner in this type of relationship is seeking marriage while the other has very cold feet.
If you don't want to get stuck in a relationship like this, set a time limit for yourself of one, two or three years and if your partner isn't ready to walk down the aisle at that point, you'll know it's time to move on.
Dating isn't always easy; it can be filled with a great deal of disappointment and frustration.
If you set out on a dating course with some clear objectives and self-directed rules in place, you'll find the journey to be filled with fewer pitfalls.
With any luck, you'll also find your one and only somewhere along the course, preferably sooner rather than later.