Dear Diva Rebecca,

I have a problem that I need help with. My problem is that I have had this huge sexual awakening, and I have no idea what to do. I even went onto one of these websites that cater just for sex. I made contact with a seemingly nice guy and we started talking about fantasies. He is quite willing to make one of my long standing fantasies come true, a prospect that has left me very excited indeed. The fantasy involves meeting a stranger in a posh hotel room, the catch is that he is blindfolded, and he is there as my sex slave for the night. He doesn't get to see my face that night, but we spend all night making our fantasies a reality. He says he is very excited at the prospect of imagining, planning this fantasy and that it's a turn on for him too. He has seen a very old photo of me and he likes what he sees, and I like what I see too. We have been exchanging emails about boundaries, what turns us on/off etc. and our ideas seem to be along the same lines. I have expressed my concerns about safety and all other practical issues that have come to mind and he is quite receptive and equally concerned. I told him that we can't meet up before hand to gain some form of trust between us, because that would spoil the whole kick of having sex with a stranger. So we've decided to give it some time and only do this in October, in the meantime we'll keep in touch by emails. Although I am so excited, I don't know this person after all, and there is the safety issue. Am I being crazy in planning to do this? I would prefer not to have sex with a total stranger because I love the trust that gets built up between lovers, but this is not about love, this is about sex, and making a fantasy a reality. Am I allowing my randiness to blur my logic here? If I do go ahead with this, what precautions can I take (we've agreed to wear condoms as I would never risk my life for sex) to ensure that I sexually safe from any STD's.

Sincerely,

Online Fantasy
United Kingdom

Dear Online Fantasy,

Yummy, yummy, yummy.

If you want it you shall get it. No, I do not think this is over the limit and I do not think it is strange. This will be a very fun experience for you and the memories will last a life time. There are many people out there who have fantasies that will never ever be fulfilled and that is pretty sad when you think about it. Humans were created to enjoy sex. Take all the pleasure in it while you can before you get tied down. There is NOTHING to be ashamed about and it is not wrong.

Everyone has fantasies and they all vary. You can not let your inhibitions get in the way when you do meet up with this stranger. You must be completely in the mood and ready to have fun. If you worry for the slightest reason you will not be able to fully enjoy the experience.

One thing that you must do is let your best friend, or someone that you trust, know where you are going to meet him and this is for safety reasons. Tell him or her that it is a blind date or make something up. Let him or her know the name of the hotel, when you are going there, his name, email and any other info you have about him. Then tell him or her that you will call them at a certain time when you get home and if you do not call that means he or she should start trying to find you. Then, you must make sure that your stranger date is aware that you have informed someone about the date and the specifics. That way, if he was a freak, he will now have second thoughts before doing anything nasty.

For sexual protection a condom will be necessary but it looks like you have that under control. Just be aware that a condom does not protect against all STD's. There are condoms made for women that can protect the entire pubic area if you are that concerned.

Chances are, you will have nothing to worry about and you will have a delicious time fulfilling your fantasy. Enjoy!

Sincerely,

Diva Rebecca