Dear Diva Rebecca,

I have been married for 24 years and cucked for ten. She started dating a few years after I had a motorcycle accident that left me paraplegic and unable to get an erection. I've since found sites that describe what I am..... a CUCK. My wife understands that I enjoy her having sex with other men and getting to clean her orally when she returns home. The problem is that she does not want me to watch her having sex. I do get to listen to her when she is home. I usually stay in bed after she gets home with her date and they play in the living room. Hearing her moans turn me on greatly. And waiting for her to come to bed to feed me is truly a great turn-on to me. Do you think that there is a chance that I could watch her with these men? If so how? I've asked her but she tells me that she is too shy.

Sincerely,

The Cuckold,
Huntington, West Virginia

Dear Cuckold,

Very interesting. I enjoyed your "matter of fact" way of relating your unusual problem. For the readers who do not knows what a "cuck" is, it comes from the word "Cuckhold". By definition, a cuckhold used to be what a man was referred to as when he had a cheating wife. Nowadays, a cuck refers to a man who is sexually aroused by having his wife enter the beds of other men.

There are many couples that enjoy this sort of sexual behavior. However, there is one big difference. Most men who enjoy being the cuck, and the women who indulge in this behavior, do so out of choice. But in your situation, you and your wife have come to this arrangement out of necessity. She needs and/or desires sexual satisfaction and you need to feel as if you are satisfying her. You also desire that closeness that sexual intimacy creates and therefore you find being a cuckhold fulfills your duty.

It is obvious that your sexual choice is stimulating to you. You enjoy being the cuckold, you find it stimulating and you enjoy keeping your wife happy. I applaud you for being able to find news ways to keep your sex life alive with your wife. Many men in your position would not have been able to deal with this situation because most men, even if they found themselves paralyzed, would never be able to allow their wifes to be intimate with another man. But to you, her satisfaction is arousing.

The thing I would worry about is that her comfort with this situation may not be as high as yours. That is why she has been unable to let you watch. She might never have let you be a cuckold if your accident did not leave you paralyzed and that is something you should think about. However, she is still going out there and having sexual relations with other men so she is obviously not too uncomfortable with it.

With any kind of sexual issue the worse thing you can do is pressure someone into doing what you want. It is fine to bring up your desires but leave it alone after that especially if she feels a little uncomfortable. No pressure. Pressure causes a person to do the exact opposite in a relationship. It can even cause resentment and a lack of sexual desire. Always be nice about it when you bring up the issue and tell her it would make you very happy if she did this for you. Let her know that she can do it whenever she feels comfortable. Tell her to have a few drinks with the guy and if she feels comfortable, take him home for you. Now, the next time this happens, she probably will not bring him home anytime soon but do NOT make her feel bad about it. Do not ask her why she did not bring him home or tell her that it bothered you that she did not bring him home. This would be nagging and you do not want to nag her about it at all. Do not bring up the issue at all after she comes home. Just ask her again the next time. Simply smile, be very sweet and nicely tell her you would love it if she brought the lover back home each time before she leaves for her rendezvous.

It may take a while but your must let HER build up to it. You must let it be her decision, that is the only way she will comply with your wish. This is why you can not nag her about it or pressure her into it. Eventually, she will try and give you what you want. And once she does it the first time, she will be much more comfortable with the situation and will more easily give in to your desires.

Sincerely,

Diva Rebecca