"I recently received this email from a woman not too long ago. I thought I would share it with all of my readers. We have all been there, down in the dumps and hurting from what seems like the worst possible break up in the world. If you think you are having a terrible time, read this story. Hopefully, this may help show you that your problems are not as bad as others. Someone always has it worse. To protect her privacy, the email was shortened and my entire response has also been consolidated for internet posting purposes."

Dear Diva Rebecca,

I met a guy finally, after being alone for seven years, yes seven WHOLE years. We dated for about six months and then he proposed to me on New Years Eve. We had met in July of 2003. He told me that he would go to the ends of the earth for me and that he loved me with his whole heart and soul. We sailed his sailboat 600 miles to start a new life together. Everything was wonderful and I became pregnant. We had been dating for over a year and one day he was just gone. I was sick on the couch just three weeks ago and he was pumping me full of medicine. Then he just got up and said "I HAVE TO GO". I thought he was headed for the store, I was too sick to pay attention. Unbeknownst to me he packed a few bags, got in his sailboat and sailed away. And with that I have never heard from him again and still haven't heard from him. I can't believe that any person could be so cruel to another. Especially one you claim to love. He just jumped on his boat and sailed right out of my life. What did I do? At first, I thought he had been hurt, kidnapped, mugged, I wasn't sure. Horrible thoughts were running through my head. I called the police and filed a missing person's report. After not hearing from him for some time I finally had to call his family and tell them he was missing. That is when I found out what really happened. His parents told me that "he is done with me and our relationship". He told them that "our lives are not going in the same direction", what a lame excuse. His family is covering for him and he will not talk to me. Why on earth did he do this to me? Why did he bring me here and leave me? Why did he tell me he loved me? Help me, I am pregnant!


Sincerely,

Pregnant and Stranded
Pensacola, Florida

Dear Pregnant and Stranded,

That is truly a heart breaking story! I honestly have no idea how people can be so cruel. What he did to you was intolerably cruel. I am going to post your story online and I urge you to send him the URL when I post it. He needs a wake up call.

When a guy leaves like that, out of the blue and with absolutely no warning, it usually means that there were some things you were not aware of and that he has not been fully honest with you. He could have been seeing someone else, had financial problems, that sort of thing. And in his mind the problem was so bad that instead of facing you with it, he took the cowardly route and just left in the middle of the night and never looked back, no explanation given. There was something terribly wrong here and he was too afraid to talk to you about it. This man is a coward.

First of all, you do not want him back. You deserve better than some joe blow schmuck who just leaves you without a word....in a boat!!!.....while you are pregnant. That is the tackiest move I have ever heard of, and I am going to make sure that all of my readers hear about this loser as well. Second, contact a lawyer ASAP. There are plenty of services out there designed to help women in your state get the child support they deserve. If he does not pay up, he is a dead beat Dad. You can not find a worse kind of guy. A father who chooses not to acknowledge his child and support them in any way should be sentenced away for life in my opinion. Also take advantage of any support groups that you can find. In your city, you should also be able to find single parent groups who get together and "mingle".

I have heard some pretty bad break up stories but this one is pretty severe. It is also breaking my heart! Let this one be a warning to everyone out there who thinks they have it tough. Someone has it even worse.

Sincerely,

Diva Rebecca